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It’s not been too long since I wrote one of these, sometime in May was the last one, but it’s definitely time for another life update! I actually have life-like updates to share and not just comments about the weather or riding my bike for a change!

Work Talk

So the biggest, and most exciting update, is that I quit my job and my PhD. Yup, I did. And yup, it was right at the last stage too. It’s a long story but as it stood, I hated my job and had done for the majority of the time doing it. Despite many attempts to make changes, nothing did change so in the end, after many long talks and a lot of thinking, I decided it best to finish at the end of my current contract. The chances of graduation were at little to none, so for me, I’ve made a good choice all round. I decided that I would rather be happy and despite almost every person having the opinion of “just stick it out”, I listened to my gut and left.

You know what, I think it was the single most powerful decision I have ever made.

It feels empowering to have made a decision based on my happiness and my wants in life. Yeah, I won’t have a PhD, but truth be told, I don’t care. That was the big thing about this decision, I was indifferent to the outcome, so it made sense to choose what I truly wanted to do.

What are my plans for the future, well, I’m not 100% sure, I’m starting to see some beauty in the unknown and the unexpected. I have plans to pursue my photography, or at least give it my best shot. I want to learn more Photoshop and editing skills and maybe turn that into some freelance work. Nothing is set in stone though, I’m just taking a bit of a break.

Travel Plans

Apart from work, other things have gone on as well. We’ve booked two trips back to the UK this year. We’re heading to Cambridge (Kris for a work conference, me for fun) in September and then to Kris’ home for the holidays in December. It’ll be five days of reading, family time and not much else – I’m also secretly hoping for a trip to the vegan Chinese restaurant that we went to in May. I’m excited for Cambridge, although I’m not sure if I’ll head into the city yet, or go to the coast instead. Plenty of time to decide!

Vegan Shizz

We hit our one year vegan mark, which I’m really excited about. I must have mentioned it in my daily photos, but I still might write a whole post about it too. I’m proud of myself for doing it and shocked that it went by so fast! I hope to start including more vegan things on my blog now that I have more time, I’m thinking recipes, ideas for vegan and cruelty free products and anything else I (or you) can think of!

Hint, hint, let me know of anything that might interest you!

Everything Else

What else is there from the last couple of month… Oh, I started a little at-home workout routine to increase my body strength. It’s a lot of fun, although my only concern is whether the people walking outside can see me doing star jumps through the window. I realise that star jumps aren’t exactly a weight exercise, but they are fun so they’re included.

My hallway ceiling is still damaged from the neighbours upstairs flooding it. We’re almost on the road of getting it fixed, but you know how it is: so-and-so can’t get hold of that guy, who can’t get hold of the other guy, who needs to call so-and-so back because that other guy says that guy knows something… Yeah, it’s a shamble.

I think that’s everything. Kris has nothing to report, because he’s boring – I kid, he’s just been playing PokemonGo and World of Warcraft because he’s a major-nerd. Pork Chop just thinks it’s been too damn hot to be a hamster.

I think that means we’re all caught up on life! It feels good and I’m excited for the future! So tell me, what’s been going on in your life lately?

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  • Good for you for quitting the job that you didn’t like. I hate when people say stuff like “Oh you should just stick it out”… ugh. I just want to tell them to shut up. We should ALL do what makes us happy and if we are somewhere/doing something that is not making us happy then we need to get up and leave. And I’m so proud of you for doing just that! And I’m glad you are excited about the future. There is something oddly exciting about not knowing what exactly is going to happen next… I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do, and whatever it is that you do just make sure you are happy and loving every moment of it. <3

    • Thank you! I agree with you 🙂 Most of the time, the people giving the “stick it out” advice, are those that haven’t been in the same situation, which is infinitely more annoying.

      Thank you for the kind words and mini pep talk! I’m definitely excited, if a little nervous too, but excited all the same. It’s all very up in the air!

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  • Oh Kerri! I’m so happy that you’ve taken this big step and decided to quit. I hope that it feels as good as I can imagine it does. I know how hard that decision must have been and have some inklings as to how long you’ve been pondering it so – yeah, go you. <3

    • Thank you! Oh it feels awesome 🙂 I’m glad I did it. Now for the next life adventure!

  • SUCH huge news, would it be strange and patronising to say I’m proud of you? Well I am anyway, it’s a massive decision to make and so brilliant to have decided something just for you, to make you happier and content. Life is just too damn short to be spending so much of it doing something that doesn’t make your soul sing. I may be pep talking myself out of a job here….

    And, because it’s all about me, I can’t wait to see what you do here on t’interwebs.

    AND Chopster’s right, it is too damn hot to be wearing a fur coat all the time.
    M x

    • Absolutely not! I’m pretty proud of me too. I’m been very refreshing to my soul to hear all the positive responses to my news in the comment here. Unlike the real-life people.

      I’m all about the soul-singing. That’s my mission for the rest of this year, make my soul sing more often than not. So far, it’s going okay.

      Luckily it’s cooling down a bit now and Chopster is back to his busy body self. For the last two weeks he’s just pottered about and ignored the world.

  • Wow, big changes afoot! Good on you for doing what’s right for you, rather than what is the right “career track”. I was having this chat with my sister last night, funnily enough. I just think we don’t hear enough from people who’ve had non-typical working lives and we hear too much that you have to do a, then b, then c and that means you’ll be happy. Not the case! I hope you find the path that’s right for you.

    • I know! A little scary, but also very exciting!

      I think the one disappointing part about it was that for me, it would have been the right career track. I loved science and I loved studying and have always been really good at it and felt very satisfied with the work. But the PhD ruined it for me. I can’t see myself going back to science ever again.

      Plenty more careers in the sea… that’s what they say isn’t it?

      I agree, absolutely! Maybe I should write more about it and give a broader over view. I’m sure there’s many other people in my position that might just want to hear that it’s actually OK to give up and start again.

  • Wife of a Gamer

    Good for you! I also dropped out of my studies halfway through as I felt it was just not going to add to my life and I was literally miserable. I was also just doing it because my parents believed that one must have a qualification to get a good job. Anyhow, I am happy. Glad that you are too. Really wish to visit the UK one day.

    • Good for you too! Sometimes you’ve just got to do what you want in life. There’s always a way to make things work and to get by. Although, I’m still working on learning that!

  • How exciting!!! I remember you mentioning the job things a while back and it’s wonderful to hear that you have taken that step for your happiness. It’s fantastic!!

    Congrats on the vegan-nniversary too 🙂 xx

    • Thank you for the kind words! It’s been so refreshing to hear everyones opinions on here, compared to the opinions of my real-life people. It’s been very satisfying to my soul.

  • Sarah Albertson

    Wow, good for you for have the courage to make some huge changes in life to make it what you really want! There once was a time when all I wanted to do was get my PhD, but eventually my dreams changed and I realized I didn’t want that life anymore. I decided there was something to be said about a more simple life. I still got to work in a lab like I wanted, but the work I do has been streamlined and the kinks worked out by many years and long hours put in by PhDs, haha! And every day I am glad I made the decision not to get mine.

    I am excited to hear about all your future adventures, best of luck! 🙂

    • Thank you!

      Actually when I read about your job I think to myself “damn, I should have done that”, I’ve always enjoyed the more technical aspects of science. I’ve never really liked the paper writing, the conferences and what not that come with a PhD. I prefer to do the technical work and teach the new people.

      I also love a simple life. I don’t want to be working 12 hours a day for something that never works out.

      But, after my PhD, I’m all out of love for science and I can’t see myself ever doing that as a job again. Shame really, since it’s all I’m qualified for.

      I think you made a great decision! I wished I’d made the same!

      • Sarah Albertson

        You could still do that, just give it some time and your science love may come back 🙂 I felt pretty burnt out when I finally finished school and wondered if I made a mistake picking biology as a major, but eventually I got back into it after bouncing around from job to job until I found one I liked. I still wonder sometimes if I should have chosen amother career path, but I suppose that’s normal

  • Congrats on following what is right for you. No one else can know how happy or unhappy something makes you. I quit my job I had been at for almost 5 years but was miserable at last year and my plan totally changed but I’m enjoying the unexpected. Also, congrats on the vegan-versary! I was vegan for about two years until partway through this year. I’ve gone vegetarian for the pregnancy, but I hope I can go back to vegan afterward so I always like finding new vegan foods.

    • Thank you! I agree, and despite every one having their opinion, they were never in the same situation so it didn’t make sense for me to take too many of their opinions on board. In the end, it just had to be for myself.

      Good for you for quitting! It takes a lot to recognise our unhappiness and to make steps to move out of it. I’m learning to enjoy the unexpected and the unplanned! it’s an art, and I’m a little nervous at the moment, but I hope to enjoy it a little more after the shock of being unemployed has worn off.

      I hope so too! I can’t speak from experience, but I hear good things about being vegan during pregnancy, but it’s a very personal choice. I wish you a happy pregnancy and I hope you get back on your vegan journey soon!

  • it takes a lot of courage to scrap the plan and go with something new for the sake of happiness. i think you made the right choice. if you hated your job and didn’t see graduation in the near future, why waste your precious time on those things when you could be focusing your energy on finding the things that make you happy?? good for you 🙂

    • I think so to 🙂 Absolutely! I just could justify wasting more time and I was lucky to be in a situation where I could quit and having my husband still working, it was actually the perfect time to make a big decision like that.

      Here’s to the future!

  • That sounds like it was the right decision. I know what you mean about it being empowering – I really felt like that after separating from my first husband and quitting my masters. Although neither were exactly happy circumstances, it feel great to eventually make the decision I knew was right for me.

    Liz x
    Distract Me Now Please

    • It took me a while to realise it, but it definitely felt right after sending the first email to my boss. I agree, it was probably one of the hardest decisions to make, but at the same time the easiest once you made the first decision to do it for yourself.

  • What a tremendous decision. That takes courage. Good for you!

    • Thank you so much!

  • Good for you! I am so glad that these decisions have made you happy.

  • Emmas happy world

    Good for you, you should be so proud of yourself it’s so hard to follow your gut specially when others think it’s the wrong decision. I hope you find something that you love 💚

    • Thank you!! Me too! I’m haven’t quite got myself in the right head space yet but I hope have something in the works by the end of the year.

  • i say go you for making such a big decision! life is far too short to waste it doing something that doesn’t make you happy. and congrats on being vegan for a year, that is awesome. i was just saying to gretch that i love to read about why people go vegan and any tips or whatever they have, so post away! i eat meat sometimes, but i’m like maybe 80% vegetarian? ah, who knows. don’t think i eat any just vegan meals though.

    • Thank you! I totally agree and in the end, that’s the thought process that got me to the decision. That and really realising that I’d already spend so much time doing something I hated and I would just be wasting more time.

      I will have to start making myself a list of post ideas to share! I hope I can be helpful to at least one person.

      You might be surprised, there’s a lot of accidentally vegan snacks out there, like Oreos!

      • i know, how cool is it that oreos are vegan? unfortunately they are not gluten free and i have celiacs disease… so no oreos for me!

        • Ah, that sucks! I was going to say there’s probably a lot of vegan/gluten free things, but they only thing popping up in my mind is fruit! I do love some fruit 🙂

          It’s a personal choice to make and there’s good in reducing meat, eating veggie, there’s good in making a difference even a little bit. It’s all a journey to go on.

  • Huh. This is my first time here but GOOD FOR YOU for quitting something that wasn’t bringing you any joy or fulfillment and wasn’t GOING to bring you any of that stuff. What were you studying? I hope your new path comes easily and seamlessly!
    I’m not vegan, but I do use exclusively cruelty-free products. Congrats on your 1-year mark!

    • Probably a strange post to first come to this space with, sorry about that!

      I was doing a PhD in biomedical science, working in arthritis research. Pretty boring to be honest.

      Me too! Here’s to the future!

      I started with buying CF projects and then it just went from there for me 🙂 Vegan seemed to be the next logical step.

  • So excited for you hitting your 1 year Vegan mark!!! I was a vegan for 8 years and fell off for a while now, so been eating vegetarian. It’s just so hard starting back sometimes.

    • Thank you! Wow 8 years is fantastic! I couldn’t imagine not being vegan now. We didn’t really do a transition thing, we went meat-veggie-vegan in six months haha! I hope you get back on your vegan journey!

  • Glad you’re happy. PhDs are overrated anyway (I may or may not be saying that because I don’t have one :-P)

    Cambridge is gorgeous! And I miss the beach. Lucky you 🙂

    • Haha, I totally agree. Totally overrated! But don’t tell Kris that! He’s still working on that!

  • Cambridge sounds fab. I’ve been last year in October and I loved it. We went to Rainbow Cafe, near King’s Collage, it’s vegetarian and it was nice. Congrats for the vegan anniversary. xx

    • I’ve never been, so I’m looking forward to it! Oh cool, I think I saw that when I was looking for some vegan eats, I’ll look into it some more! Thanks for the rec!

  • Jessica Marie

    I also quit my ‘proper’ job earlier this year and am now working as a barista in a coffee shop – not a ‘smart’ move but it felt good. And, believe it or not, I withdrew my PhD application around the same time, despite enormous pressure to carry on and see it through.

    I totally understand the sense of relief that comes with making a decision that’s just for *you* and no one else! Congrats on getting as far as you did and well done for doing what felt right. Enjoy Cambridge! x

    • I have come to realise that people put too much into the “smart” decisions and don’t give any weight to the “good” decisions. What irritated me the most about the decision I was making was that others were trying to make it for me, but none of them were in the same position.

      I’m happy you made a good decision and not a smart one! Go you. We only get one life, we might as well be happy doing it, and if being a barista makes you happy, then I applaud your decision!

      You don’t know how relieved/happy that makes me to hear you turned down a PhD. I really needed to hear that, thank you. Although I’m incredibly happy with my decision, it’s a still a sore point in my brain so hearing another person has done the same is nice.

      Thanks for sharing that little snippet of your life!